Do you suffer from a chronic condition and feel like you’re constantly complaining but your listeners are at a loss with how to respond. Cynthia Reyes offers some tips she’s learned from her experiences.
Amazing how people can lie, when asked a simple question: “How are you feeling today?”
“Great!” they reply, when what they really mean is: “Horrible! Really horrible!”
Why do they lie?
“No-one wants to listen to a complainer,” says a woman I met in my pain management program at the hospital. “After a while, people don’t want to be around you.”
“Everybody’s already got their own troubles,” says a woman who’s living with cancer.
“What’s the point?” asks a man who recently lost his job. “Even if they listen, they feel helpless.”
And finally, from an elderly woman: “I just don’t want my children to worry.”
They had given up on telling the truth. Even people who find dishonesty repugnant, would sooner lie than admit the sad truth about how they’re feeling on a given day.
In my group at the rehabilitation hospital, most people I asked admitted they’d…
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